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Blooferlady:

At one point or the other, women have had that “magical” tingle-slash-thrill over the start of new relationships. Correction: could-be-relationships. The most exhilarating of all (and the most ego-boosting) is when a random Oh-my-God-he’s-so-hot guy comes up to you at a bar to ask for your phone number at the most unexpected of moments.

I was lucky enough to have had that sort of experience while I was out with girlfriends (while bitching about a recent big bad break up), and I couldn’t sum up the experience better than: sheeeeeeeeeeeeeettttttttttttt!!!!

It doesn’t even piss me off that the guy never actually called. I’m not really into the rebound thing anyway. I’m just happy to realize that my “market value”, despite the fact that I’ve aged and gained weight over the past how many years, hadn’t decreased, despite life.

It’s nice to be “out there” in a way.

Now I just need to develop the skill of turning off that nagging heart ache at will.

Woodbeetle:

To be honest, women need the ego boost every now and then, just as much as men do. To quote Blooferlady, that “magical tingle-slash-thrill” never ceases to make me smile; when I allow it to come my way, that is. And despite the fact that the “kilig” moment may not go anywhere, we actively look for it when we feel insecure, bored, jaded or are newly single.

What’s dangerous is when we mistake the flirtation for something possibly more than what it really is. When we feel like we’ve met our match and are challenged by certain charismatic individuals (read: pigs masquerading as men who want you for what seems to be more than one night of passion), we are in danger of slipping down the slippery slope to, well, er, infatuation. One must guard against this deplorable weakness lest it turn one into an over-analyzing, nihilistic, jaded idiot (read: me, right now).

LadyRain:

Key is to just enjoy the moments when they happen. Avoid reading too much into them. Take pleasure in the fact that you are free, beautiful and free to be extra gorgeous.